For Bereaved Parents

Anam Cara offers a variety of supports for bereaved parents who have lost a child and those who support them. These services are open to any parent whose child has died, regardless of the age of their child, the circumstances of their death, or how recently they have been bereaved.

Peer to Peer support groups are at the core of what Anam Cara does. These groups both online and in fourteen locations across the island of Ireland provide a special kind of support—a safe place for you to be yourself wherever you are on your grief journey. These gatherings offer recognition, understanding, and normalisation in intense grief, and we hope to share with you a sense of hope in meeting parents further on. Peer support meetings are different from group therapy or counselling sessions, which tend to be more goal-oriented discussions with a mental health professional. Many parents utilise a combination of supports as they move through grief. Each Anam Cara support meeting is facilitated by a bereavement or mental health professional and a volunteer parent—someone who knows the experience of losing a child. Together, they ensure a welcoming and respectful environment, where all people can bring their whole selves without fear of judgement, criticism, or condemnation. We also offer Bereavement Information Meetings, to grow your understanding of the grief process and how to tend to yourself during this time, and Family Remembrance Events throughout the year, to invite new ways of remembering your child from yourself and your family. Our services are available to you as long as you need them, free of charge.

The fact that you are here shows that you are brave and resilient and might be ready to take the next step in sharing your grief with people who deeply understand by attending one of our supports. This too, takes courage. At your first event you may want to share your whole story, or maybe just listen. You may want to attend every event, or just once or twice a year. You might attend and feel you are not ready yet—that’s okay, you can come back anytime, and the support of Anam Cara will be open to you.

Face to Face Support Meetings

Providing the unique supports of a peer-to-peer setting with links to further supports as necessary through our volunteer parents and professional facilitators, this is an opportunity to connect with other parents with the shared experience, who understand.

Online Support Meetings

Our online support meetings are for bereaved parents who are more familiar with our services, and require registration, an opportunity to continue building the relationships of mutual support and solidarity you have established in face-to-face meetings.

Bereavement Information Evenings

Our bereavement information events can be helpful if you are recently bereaved, providing appropriate information about parental grief from an experienced professional speaker. This is an opportunity to connect with other bereaved parents in a safe and comfortable forum.

Family Remembrance Events

These remembrance events acknowledge that when a child dies, each member of the immediate family, extended family, or circle of friends is deeply impacted. This is not a journey meant to be walked alone, inviting your wider circle of supports to join you in celebrating and remembering your child.

Navigating the Grief Journey

Grief affects each person differently—even you and your partner or someone else who you know has lost a child may respond to the death of a child differently. You may feel some of these as you begin to grieve, or many years after as memories, milestones, and anniversaries pass: 

  • A profound longing, emptiness, or sadness.
  • Crying all the time, at unexpected times, or even not at all.
  • Inability to concentrate on anything, frequently misplacing items.
  • Wondering ‘Why?’ or asking yourself ‘If only…’
  • Feelings of guilt or shame.
  • Anger with yourself, family members, God, doctors, and even your child for dying.
  • Changes in social patterns, seeking or avoiding the company of others.
  • Physical exhaustion or aches – grief is hard work and consumes much energy.
  • Difficulty sleeping or sleeping all the time.
  • Physical symptoms such as heaviness in your chest or having difficulty, tightness in your throat, yawning, sighing, gasping, or even hyperventilating breathing (if these and other physical symptoms persist, see your GP).

Grief is the natural response to loss, as your mind and body try to make sense of the loss of your child.

We at Anam Cara are here to walk alongside you and support you on the journey.