To help you cope after the loss of a child

Below are some books that have helped some of us on our journey. We have also included a section which will let you review the book for others who may want to use it. Anam Cara is in the process of setting up a Library as some of these books may be difficult to come across. You are very welcome to contact us and we can forward them on to you.

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A Broken Heart Still Beats

By Anne McCracken and Mary Semal

A collection of poetry, fiction and essays compiled by a journalist and a social worker, both of whom have lost a child. This book explores the shock, the grief and the search for meaning that come with the death of a child.

Reader Review

“This book brought me comfort, it is filled with empathy and understanding and I realised that some of the feelings and thoughts I have had since Rachel has died were normal, I felt I was not alone in my grief and any time I wanted to be with someone who had lost a child all I had to do was pick up the book and chose a passage to read.”
Sharon Vard

The Worst Loss – How families heal from the death of a child

By Anne McCracken and Mary Semal

A collection of poetry, fiction and essays compiled by a journalist and a social worker, both of whom have lost a child. This book explores the shock, the grief and the search for meaning that come with the death of a child.

Beyond Tears

By Ellen Mitchell

The death of a child is an unimaginable loss no parent ever expects to face. In Beyond Tears, nine mothers share their individual stories of how to survive in the darkest hour. They candidly share with other grieving parents what to expect in the first year and long beyond: Harmonious relationships.

There is a new definition of what one considers “normal” The question “how many children to you have?” can be devastating Mothers and fathers mourn and cope differently. There simply is no answer to the question “why?”. This sharing in itself is a catharsis and because each of these mothers lost her child at least seven years ago, she is in a unique position to provide perspective on what newly bereaved parents can expect to feel.

Sad Book

By Ellen Mitchell

The death of a child is an unimaginable loss no parent ever expects to face. In Beyond Tears, nine mothers share their individual stories of how to survive in the darkest hour. They candidly share with other grieving parents what to expect in the first year and long beyond: Harmonious relationships.

There is a new definition of what one considers “normal” The question “how many children to you have?” can be devastating Mothers and fathers mourn and cope differently. There simply is no answer to the question “why?”. This sharing in itself is a catharsis and because each of these mothers lost her child at least seven years ago, she is in a unique position to provide perspective on what newly bereaved parents can expect to feel.

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby

By Deborah L. Davis

I bought this book after our fourth child lived only for eleven hours after birth at term three months ago. I found it helpful to know that people do grieve in roughly the same way and that my responses were normal.

Also, that the unhelpful way in which other people sometimes respond to me is also common.

The book is well laid out and there is not too much emphasis on the formalities which have to take place after a baby dies.

‘Someone To Talk To’ – A Handbook on Childhood Bereavement

BARNARDOS Ref: ISBN 1 898662 58 4

Death is a natural part of life. We cannot protect children and young people from the reality of it happening in their lives. What we can do however is accompany them on their journey through grief with informed support, information and encouragement.

This handbook is a useful tool in the process, providing readily accessible, user-friendly information on a wide range of aspects of grief.

Available from Barnardos.ie Price: € 20.00

Rachel’s Story

Code: 1853906778

Rachel’s Story is an honest and moving account of how one family dealt with the death of a child. It begins with some special memories of Rachel and goes on to describe what happened to her from the time she first got sick, to her stay in Limerick and Temple Street Hospitals and finally her death.

The effect that her funeral had on the family and the way they coped with this traumatic time is also dealt with.

Finally, the journey that the family have made together following the loss of a sister and daughter and their acceptance that time moves on, is movingly recounted for the reader.

Available from Veritas.ie Price: € 11.95

Grandparents Cry Twice

ISBN-10: 089503204X

Grandparents Cry Twice: Help for Bereaved Grandparents” is a book about grandparents’ dual sorrow when a grandchild dies.

They cry for their lost grandchild and they also cry for the terrible grief they see their own child having to bear.

The author, Mary Lou Reed, writes of her experiences when her beloved grandson, Alex, died. Through her personal story she touches the universal in all grandparents’ grief.

The Courage to Grieve

By Judy Tatelbaum Vermillion - ISBN-10: 0749309369

Although this book emphasises the response to bereavement, it aims to help with all kinds of loss and grief, exploring intense and uncomfortable emotions such as sorrow, guilt, loneliness, resentment, confusion, and the temporary loss of the will to live.

There is advice on how to help oneself and others to get through the immediate experience of death and the grief that follows, as well as how to understand the special grief of children.